Need is human nature. Separation goes against our biology. There is nothing wrong with having needs or our children having needs, but not all of those needs can and must be met in order to raise resilient, loving children. It’s about how we interact with needs that impact our relationships. If you don’t have enough of you (your needs, your feelings) in your relationship with your children, then you are essentially removing yourself from that connection and ultimately teaching them to do the same thing. Saying “I matter too,” as opposed to “I matter more,” may actually strengthen your relationship rather than hurt it.
