Men share things that secretly bother them but are rarely talked about

This Reddit post about things men secretly think about but never discuss publicly gave me some insight into how the male mind works (ok, I’m still confused, but it helps). Here are some popular responses:

1. “I think a lot of men and women believe that the media’s portrayal of relationships is what a good relationship should be like, and that does a huge disservice to their happiness and satisfaction in real relationships.”

2. “There’s a social loss that’s happening right now. People need to talk and be with other people, especially at a young age. Soon we’re going to have a lot of young people who don’t have the opportunity to do that. I worry about this as people pull further inward. What are the consequences.

3. Why is balance one of the most important things in life, but are we ever rewarded for it growing up or in society? Everything seems to be one way or another, black and white, there is so much extremism. You either lose or you win. Why don’t schools teach kids how to deal with stress? And learn more about the law? finance? If college is not the future your child wants, what is a different path? The school is not for other people. On top of that, there is a lot of bullying that goes on that undermines education and people’s ability to trust and want to socialize.

4. “It’s hard to find a woman who is content with a simple life. I want to be clear: I don’t hate women. Women deserve the love and respect they are born with, but they have to deal with a lot of things that we as men will never understand. . All that aside, I’d love to meet a woman who isn’t obsessed with travel, entrepreneurship, or Instagram, and it’s hard to find. I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with travel or business, but that leaves little room for love. , or when she can’t relax and enjoy the moment without thinking about the next trip, that’s not real energy.

5. “The sheer number of big-name streaming services is ruining streaming. It used to be we only had two or whatever, but now everyone has one. So instead of all the money being pooled together, it’s spread out everywhere . And since they are a bit expensive, people run one or two at a time and then cancel and choose another one or two to run for a month or two which negatively impacts the show as there is less money available so these companies cancel the very exciting ones. series because they didn’t see great initial numbers.

6. “I’m still young but constantly thinking about my future. “What if it doesn’t work out? “

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7. “Why do men have to do all the work outside the home? Why can’t women/wives mow the lawn? Why have I never seen a woman on a ladder clearing leaves from the gutters? Do women say they are not capable of these tasks? Men can certainly decorate homes and perform many of the tasks traditionally performed by women, but we’d be assholes if we tried to tell women to do tasks traditionally performed by men.

8. “It is socially unacceptable to express that we feel unloved or dissatisfied.”

10. “One thing that really bothers many men is the pressure to always be the ‘strong’ one. Society expects us to be strong and ruthless, which makes it difficult to express vulnerability or ask for help. We are not emotionless; we are emotionless. We It just feels like we can’t show them without being judged and I wish people were more accepting of talking openly about their struggles.

11. “Men like to suppress emotions and push them down instead of exploring and understanding them. I have an increasingly difficult time connecting with men because they usually do this and then act like they are reliable, problem solvers, More pragmatic than women, less sensitive, etc., but men can really go their entire lives without understanding someone, and a friend I went to the gym with last month said after lifting weights, ‘This is better than any kind of bullshit therapy. ‘, I know this guy suppresses emotions and has a difficult past.

12. “Comparing success to others at my age, and then when I started to succeed at a so-called ‘younger’ age, people started telling me not to make big decisions because you’re still young! What bothers me is , some people can’t think outside the social box, and I’m only 24 years old.

13. “It’s hard to find male friends after graduation. Most people just meet new friends through work, but most of the people I work with are in their 50s or 60s, have families, and no time off.

14. “Women are disproportionately attentive to social media.”

Is there anything else you can add here? If so, please share it with me in the comments.