Especially power exchange brings me a lot of joy. I especially like the service. This struggle allowed me to reclaim and reshape my experiences of family life and traditional gender roles that I was obligated to fulfill during my marriage. In the past, I had to serve not only my husband but my entire family with little gratitude other than “well done, did what you were supposed to do.” Looking back on that era, especially in large family settings, I see that women’s value was based on how submissive they were to traditional roles. That’s all I know because it’s what I observe and learn from the culture around me. Now, when I engage in acts of service in my kink, I do so with genuine joy—not because it’s expected, but because I’m good at it, and with the accompanying praise, recognition, and shared joy that brings Target. It’s about knowing that my partner appreciates and recognizes my efforts and invests in my happiness, that’s my true satisfaction.
